the caged bird sings.

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Far Too Late

Bee ButlerComment

Napkin unfolded in my lap, hands gently on the table
Polite conversation and smiles and I'm genuinely able
To be the cotillion queen that you wanted me to be
But nobody told me

I can blame it on my upbringing
I can take on all the shame
Now I don't even feel like singing
Because it's far too late

The push and pull that dragged us down, silent now
Times I should have just gone ahead and shut my mouth
I swear to God there's nothing I wouldn't give up oh how
nobobdy told me

I can blame it on my upbringing
I can take on all the shame
Now I don't even feel like singing
Because it's far too late

Far too late to spread my wings, show you what determination brings
Oh no, it's far too late
Far too late to say I'm sorry and have it change a single thing
Oh no, it's far too late
Far too late for me to be here begging on my knees but I'm here anyway...

I can blame it on my upbringing (I won't)
I can take on all the shame (I do)
Now I don't even feel like singing (just for you)
Because it's far too late

I can blame it...
I can't take it...
Now I don't even feel
Because it's far too late.

On time cut short.

Bee ButlerComment
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This is Shana Fisher.

Shana, like most women I know, had a boy problem. She was being harassed by a guy she knew who refused to leave her alone even after she made it clear that she did not have any interest in dating him, nor did she want to engage in any physical contact. Like most women I know, Shana went out of her way to avoid him, told friends and family about the issue, and was genuinely afraid of him because of his persistence and the inappropriate and downright awful things he said to her.

Unlike a lot of women I know, Shana's stalker didn't rape her.

He shot her to death.

Dimitrios Pagourtzis told Shana two weeks before the Santa Fe massacre that he was going to kill her, and she told her parents. Pagourtzis was a football player and showed no outward signs of hostility to his teachers or many other classmates, so he was never even considered a danger, up until he blew away eight classmates and two teachers.

This is what happens when we don't listen to girls who are being harassed. This is what happens when we don't teach consent. This is what happens when we do not make it CRYSTAL CLEAR that boys and men have ZERO right to our bodies and minds and souls, and that we do not owe them sex because they are kind to us. This is what happens when no doesn't mean no because a court decided that the lines were blurred. THIS IS VIOLENT MISOGYNY.

Don't forget Shana Fisher.
Don't let someone you love end up like she did.
Please, pay attention, demand help, and do everything in your power to keep your friends and family safe when they tell you that this is happening to them. You never know who they're being hunted by, and they might end up staring down a bullet for a simple rejection.

 

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